Planning a vacation that includes family members with a range of ages, personalities and interests can involve a bit of tension. These are my secrets on how to plan a trip that’s enjoyable for all.

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Decide who's paying

Talk beforehand about how to handle the bills. Money is notorious for being a sticky family issue, so figuring out who pays for what must be done in advance. Otherwise, expect hurt feelings that will harden like a rock. Remember, some of your children might not earn what the others can afford. And even if you're footing the bill for rooms at an expensive resort, remember the price of a cheeseburger there is still $25. That's why cruises and all-inclusive resorts are a good idea: They create equality among all family members. And if you want to spring for that extra special bottle of wine, no one will complain.

Condominiums are also a cost-saving way to create some budget wiggle room. You might even consider getting two condos so you can separate the reserved from the rambunctious. There are a number of rental websites to help you choose the perfect house, condo or apartment, including Vacation Rentals by Owner, Home Away and Airbnb.

Choose a destination to suit all interests

There are perennial crowd pleasers, including Disneyland in California, Disney World in Florida and the national parks. I love big cities such as San Diego and Chicago, because they offer zoos, museums and so many shopping and dining options — something is sure to appeal to every traveler.

Once you've decided on a destination, have every member of the family write down what they want to do there, whether it's learning to paddleboard, or going on a long hike, or seeing the world's largest ball of twine.

Armed with that information, you can then create an itinerary by doing exactly what members want, merging certain activities that are similar or trying some things that are completely new to everyone. This wish list will let everyone feel their desires have been heard, and they'll be more likely to enjoy other's recommendations.

Take weather into account

As an experienced traveler, I prefer off-season travel for its lack of crowds and better pricing. I think it's a fine trade-off, even if it means the likelihood of colder, hotter, or more rainy days.

But for children and even teenagers, who aren't paying the bills, this might cause more moodiness and meltdowns. So for multigenerational trips I recommend sticking to the high season — or close to it.

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Schedule alone time

For me, travelers fall into two groups: Those who nap and those who don't. No matter what group you fall into, remember that everyone needs a break. I just can't stress it enough: Every day, you need to build in a nice respite, preferably around 3 or 4 p.m. If you don't, your trip will deteriorate fast, and you know as well as I do that the older generation can give toddlers a run for their money in the moody category. Those who do not nap still love that time on their own to read a book or magazine. Kids can spend that time drawing, coloring or writing in a journal.

Note: At the beginning of the trip there's always that period when everyone is trying to be polite and won't break away. Be the first to say "Well, I'm taking a snooze." Everyone will appreciate you taking the lead.